top of page
Post: Blog2_Post

Stop Asking Your Kid How Their Day Was

This works better...

Adult: “How was your day?”

Child: “Fine.”

Adult: “What did you learn today?”

Child: “Nothing.”

Adult: “Who are your friends?”

Child: “No one.”

Ever had an exchange like this with a kid?

Same. There’s a reason for this. These questions are too big and honestly too boring to get kids talking.

Instead, try asking a S.O.C.K. question.

S.O.C.K. questions are:

✨ Specific

✨ Open-ended

✨ Creative

✨ Kid-friendly

The acronym might sound silly, but it is a quick and easy way to screen the questions you are asking the little ones in your life to make sure they are actually engaging and answerable.

Here are a few examples:

If you want to know about your child’s feelings…

  • What is something that made you smile today?

  • If you could invent a new feeling, what would it be called? How would you describe it?

  • If your mood were a type of weather, what would it be? Would it be sunny, cloudy, stormy or something else?

If you want to know about your child’s learning…

  • Can you teach me how to ….?

  • What is one thing you learned today?

  • Can you tell me about a story you heard/read today?

  • What was your favorite thing you did at school today?

  • What is something that made you proud at school today?

If you want to know about your child’s relationships…

  • If you could choose your seat partner, who would it be? Why?

  • Who is someone at school that makes you feel safe?

  • Who is someone you played with today?

  • What games did you play at recess today?

If you want to know about your child’s interests…

  • If you could be the teacher for a day, what would you teach about?

  • If you became president, what is the first thing you would do?

  • Who is someone you’d love to meet in real life?

  • If you could teleport anywhere, where would you go right now?

“How was your day” is vague, unoriginal, & overwhelming. S.O.C.K. questions are accessible, engaging, & get kids talking.

For a list of 50 free S.O.C.K questions, click HERE.

Looking for even more support connecting with your kiddos?

Check out The Conversation Deck (PDF), a curated collection of 225 intentional questions to strengthen relationships, cultivate community, and enhance learning for only $9.99.

Use code CALM20 for 20% off!


bottom of page